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Tuesday, May 28th 2019

Fab Bank Holiday May taking time out for Myself

I had a really super May bank holiday, having posted that I would only see people if they had booked by Fri 7pm with deposit in and no one booking the weekend I took it off.

I went out to Hever Castle on Saturday and into Brighton on Sunday to one of my favourite restaurants Terre a Terre, although I'm not vegetarian I do love a really good veggy place to eat.

Two gym visits over the weekend and then I cooked a delicious lunch before dropping my bitch boyfriend back to the station for his journey home. BTW he likes me referring to him as this pet name!

Normally I make myself available even when he is visiting and at bank holidays but having a very negative experience the previous one with a total of EIGHT time wasting enqs it was so much better, NO stress and much more enjoyable taking this one off.

Self care, self preservation, charging your batteries and down time away from this business is very important. That's the best advice I can give any lady starting out on this path, don't be afraid to take time out. Being fully self employed can be hard at times, but bear in mind there will be super busy weeks and quiet times, take a bank holiday off and enjoy it!

Friday, May 17th 2019

Alpha Female NOT a Puppet!

Hello subs/slaves/sissies/kinksters and all

I've had a couple of messages recently that have clearly not looked at My profile and digested the info and what I'm about or simply blatantly ignored the info or simply don't understand the services I do and My personality that goes with it

I am an Alpha Female, a very experienced multi faceted Dominatrix who is very capable of listening/reading your bare bones of an idea and stamping My own mark upon it.

I don't need a script, I've been known to rip them up!

I don't need to be instructed on how to dress! That is way too controlling of you to even go there. It is ok to express a particular like/look for My consideration and if we are role playing strict headmistress or Medical nurse I will of course be dressed in the appropriate attire of bus driver, lolly pop lady, Oooops typo

you get the picture.

We will have a chat before the session so that we both get the best from our time playing together.

I am only interested in seeing the right people for Me, you need to be able to openly communicate, be respectful, not top from the bottom and not tell Me how to dominate you.

I will watch your body language in a session, will push you but not step over your boundaries, will respect mutual discretion and be reliable Myself.

BUT I am really NOT a chick with a whip, puppet on a string type of lady.

Wicked thoughts
Mistress Helen Ryder XX

Wednesday, February 20th 2019

My holiday in Barbados

Hello subs, slaves, sissies and kinksters

I arrived back in the UK last Sunday morning and spent a couple of days getting back into the swing of things (haha pun intended)

Lots of post holiday washing and general chores, many emails and I'm on top of My game again.

I spent two hours jumping on a chap, using him as a chair and all manner of trample fun, this eve a massage booking and I've three sessions tomorrow so fully booked!

So lovely to be away over Valentines in a gorgeous hot country! I was last in Barbados 18 years ago and it has changed. The roads are far busier than they were and obviously the pound isn't as strong compared to what the exchange rate was that eating out was way more expensive than it once was.

Arriving back home I returned to a parcel which had beautiful red roses of the leather kind in, a red rose leather flogger I have wanted in My selection for many years and been on My wish list for years that I thought why wait any longer and bought it Myself!

My first ~~victim~~ play thing will be on the receiving end tomorrow!

Happy days
Mistress Helen xXx

Thursday, October 25th 2018

James Martin The Chef in Harrogate

I travelled up to West Yorkshire on Weds and then on to Harrogate with friends to go and see James Martin the chef last night. We went to a gorgeous fish restaurant first, didn't want to sit in the audience hungry seeing him cook all that scrumptious cuisine!

The show was good fun, delicious smells wafting up towards us.

Today I checked out the local gym and had a few calls re sessions in Leeds but sadly it was too late in the day to organise anything. Best to book ahead chaps.

Tomorrow I'm off to a lovely spa for some treats from My personal bitch and then out in the evening to a really good restaurant. Sat more gym to burn off the yummies, travelling home to West Sussex on Sunday. I already have sessions booked in next week, which I am looking forward to.

See you soon sluts/sissies/slaves/subs/kinksters

Mistress Helen xx

Saturday, October 13th 2018

Silent Calls don't float Mistress's boat

Hello all you silent lurkers

I love interactive phone chats, love chatting with you and hearing you whimper, moan and gasp in between pleading to be allowed to wank your cock silly & follow instructions or share a fantasy role play call together.

Silent calls where you simply ring Me and I do ALL the talking and you just listen, don't entertain Me.

I get off and on a happy hi from chatting with you and sharing kinks so call Me when you can chat freely & openly. I don't mind a low whisper as long as we actually chat.

Now pucker up bitches and kiss My arse!

Wednesday, September 19th 2018

Burgess Hill Academy for Sissy Maid Training

Today myself and Miss Joanna Armstrong had a new sissy attend for maid training to check out her skills in shoe worship, bottom worship, serving and to see if she had the qualities of being a ladies maid.

Well the little strumpet known as maid Lucy managed to ladder my Wolford stockings! I was very cross so over my lap she went for a good firm spanking. As she wiggled and wriggled she got all flustered and her clitty got very swollen in her satin panties that I had to carry out an inspection.

Maid lucy couldn't possibly continue her maids work with such an over excitable clitty, time to have some relief. Down on the floor she was sat on and the wand came out to tease her before pulling her panties to one side, lubing her up and masturbating over a lovely china saucer until she spurted out lots of sticky gooey sissy cream and then she had to lick it all up!

Sunday, June 17th 2018

My mystery holiday

Hi kinksters and all

I arrived back in the UK yesterday late eve and have been catching up on the holiday washing today. I decided to give My personal slave a very kinky bondage session before we have a delicious lunch and for him to travel back to his base and go earn some more money!

My personal slave has just taken Me on a gorgeous 10 day break to Venice for 3 nights and then on to Amalfie Coast, which was beautiful. I've been spoilt the whole time and we had many kinky times away so the break was a lot of fun

I knew we were flying from Gatwick and would be away 10 days but I asked for all details to be kept as a surprise until we reached the airport.

So it's off to the gym again first thing tomorrow (we were good and did today as well as finding an Italian gym, which we did 3 sessions in whilst away) I'm working hard on My fitness and shape. Good fit strong Mistress to keep the bois in line!
See you soon

Mistress Helen Ryder

Monday, April 16th 2018

New Kit

Hi slaves/subs/deviants and all

I was working away the other week and managed to fit in a trip to a couple of adult shops and warehouses. I've got another set of electrics from the EStim range as well as new anal plugs, a new latex flogger which has a lovely bounce and sting to it.

The beauty of the flogger is that you get lots of impact if used hard but without leaving any marks. On the other scale if used lightly it is very sensuous over the skin, lots of teasing.

I'm also looking into a latex Vacbed with an open face and cock hole, more scope for those who are nervous about full enclosure. Those that like full enclosure then I have a new latex hood with mouth hole and eye holes, which both can be easily covered up with blindfold and gag!

There are also a few other little bits no bobs, always investing back into My business for mutual fun and pleasure!

Thursday, December 14th 2017

Lifestyle Dominatrix what is it?

Lifestyle Dominatrix, what does it mean?

When I first started "Professional Domination" I was often asked on the phone if I was a lifestyle Mistress, which yes I am but what the person on the other end of the phone was actually asking was this "I want a free session" or even "I want a relationship" there are other websites out there for the dating side of Domination and when you contact someone via their business portfolio then it's really not relevant to be asking.

Lifestyle actually means to me and others that they didn't just jump on the bandwagon of "hey I can make money" that they already had an interest in kink, in attending Fetish events such as clubs, parties and munches.

They may have been in a D's relationship and loved the Domming so much that they started out part time as extra income, until it took over and it's the job we love to do.

I work full time as a Mistress now, it doesn't mean I'm seeing hundreds of people in a week but seeing lovely select people who are right for me and vice versa. I still attend some munches, some clients that I have built a great rapport with over time also become friends. Being a jolly decent friend that they still pay for their session as they understand it is taxable income, outside of a session they may well take me to dinner or accompany me to events Fetish and non Fetish. Loyal long standing clients are the ones who become part of the lifestyle trusted inner circle. NOT those who have never paid for a session and have the attitude of why should they.

Having spent thousands of pounds on ALL my dungeon furniture, equipment, website, clothing etc why would I be simply giving away free sessions to anyone?! There isn't a money tree that pays for it all and dildos etc don't grow on trees :) I wish they did as I would have an even bigger collection to go into my winky wonderland cabinet!

I feel my professional portfolio/photos and movies clips as well as FEEDBACK all speak volumes and show I have a PASSION I truly LOVE what I do!

Come and play, lets have fun together!

Thursday, December 7th 2017

December, wow how 3 months flew & new gadgets

Hello slaves/subs/kinksters and all

I can't believe how quickly 3 months has flown by since I wrote my last blog on here!

I have some new gadgets for my kink/dungeon room, new electric gadgets, leather sleep sack ordered but still awaiting shipment, lots of new canes and other bits too. See my electric ElectraStim ribbed cock for your anal pleasure attached, it is an amazing new cock and I get wonderful results with it!

I've got a cheap flight booked and an empty apartment (with cat) abroad from 20th to 28th December. My friend moved out earlier this year and part joking and genuine offer said why not run away from Christmas in the UK and look after her cat whilst she comes back to visit family. I was on the net immediately looking up flights and got a really good deal.

Whilst many of you will be stuffing your faces with roast dinners I will be by a pool in the sunshine eating salads etc.

13 days and counting before I jet off :)

Mistress Helen Ryder Xx
Wishing you all a super Christmas what ever you are up to.

Wednesday, September 27th 2017

Blondes have more fun ;)

It's good to be blonde again, and I seem to be having so much fun again since returning ;)

I did a double domme a couple of weeks ago with my friend Kitty Bliss and we have set another date for November. Last night I spent ages working on a fab event flyer and uploaded it on my own website and was going to share my artwork here and then realised it has external web links on it so I sadly can't share it with you here.

My friend Tiffany Aching also did an event flyer for our Halloween get together, so I made one for that too. I put bobbing for cocks not Apples on my version haha.

This weekend I'm off out to a Burlesque show on Friday night, then next weekend is the Grand Femdom Ball in London, week after I'm seeing Placebo and then another event in November (clubbing) I've become the social butterfly it seems....

I am still receiving requests from new clients for same day sessions, so it seems my profile isn't being read, hopefully they might read my blogs aye?!

Best advice I can give anyone is READ the ladies profile, we are all self employed and run our business the way we want to with our own set of rules/procedures. Some being more business like (believe me it's a good thing) and reliable!

Over and out, I've got to decide which dress to wear to the ball.

Mistress Helen Ryder

Wednesday, July 19th 2017

Double Domme fun Fetish Medical & slave duties

I'm really looking forward to meeting up with a lovely lady I have known for a good few years and had the pleasure of working alongside with previously. She has a fantastic venue in Milton Keynes called The Practice and my one and only Very Personal Slave will be driving me and waiting for me whilst I team up with her.

If he behaves himself and especially if he buys me something nice from the shops in MK whilst he is waiting then I might let him take us to lunch or dinner after as a reward, as well as drive me back of course and then worship my feet and any other orders I decide to bestow upon him that evening ;) he is such a lucky boi and he knows it!

Perhaps he should keep his own journal titled "The Life of a slave" :)

Monday, July 3rd 2017

Double Domination Fun

I had a brilliant double domme day with my friend Kitty Bliss last week, we saw a couple of my regular slaves who visit and our first session was spit roasting, trample and he has always wanted to have my whole hand is his bum but I am a size 7 glove so not the smallest hands!

My friend Kitty is very petite with small feet and hands so she popped on a glove and lubed up and got all her fingers in and thumb and managed to go up to the widest part and that was all. Better to be gentle then rush these things, slave really enjoyed the sensation of feeling full ;)

Our next booking was a roleplay so we dressed up in school uniform (naturally we were older girls) that gave our pervy teacher a taste of his own medicine with bare hand spanking, the hairbrush, paddles and the cane.

Lots of laughter and fun in both sessions and we will be getting together again in the future :)

Sunday, February 26th 2017

New Suspension & Multi Purpose Bench

Phew what a busy Sunday evening with my wonderful new piece of dungeon furniture delivered and installed. I am so pleased and impressed with the quality of workmanship from Nigel at MIV Furniture, he has also supplied me with my smother box, Spanking/Fuck bench and gyno bench.

I have my first willing victim lined up for the St Andrews Cross tomorrow afternoon and this particular piece of furniture has the following.

A full length cage

A removeable St Andrews Cross

A set of stocks fully height adjustable and removeable

A floating board erected and height adjustable that hangs inside and above the main bench area, fully removeable

Many suspension points and eyelets all around and above

I'm going to have so much fun using this new piece of furniture, it cost a LOT but reflects in the fine workmanship and materials used.