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Thursday, April 25th 2024

In a Relationship

People often joke about how you know whether you're in a relationship by how often you have sex. I was a huge fan of Sex and the City when it was on television and I'm sure this subject was in their script as well.

I know through past relationships that this is sadly quite often true, just when you feel the most comfortable with the other person, too. And that is so frustrating!

I know through working this job that this is the cliche as well.
So, why is this so often the case?

All I can think is people become too comfortable and bored with the other person. Familiarity breeds contempt, right? Or something like that. Sex is no longer exciting, but bland and boring.

Wednesday, March 27th 2024

A Little Treat

I thought I would spend some money and splash out a bit this month and treat myself to some new perfume. I was out buying birthday gifts for a friend anyway, so in a moment of madness, I decided to purchase some rather expensive perfume.
I don't buy designer products at all; I think they're such a waste of money and to be fair for the price of this perfume one squirt should render me senseless and knock me off my feet. It's nice enough and it does last but it's not an overpowering scent.
So, was it worth the price ...? Probably not.
I also bought some less expensive perfume by a well known brand and that's just as nice. It wasn't over £20 either, so it was far, far cheaper.
I will use this perfume as a day perfume and save the other for special occasions. If I spray it on my clothes then the scent leaves my wardrobe with a nice fragrance, too.

Tuesday, February 27th 2024

Wannabe Alpha Males

I seem to come across a lot of these men in my personal life. They want to be in control all the time, but they don't have the job or general life status to match up with their attitude.

It seems ironic really that I'm a dominatrix by profession, yet I seem to attract these bossy men who think they can call the shots whenever they like, do whatever they like without consequence.

Fine if they're an actual alpha male, I don't get on with them much anyway, but it really winds me up when they're just wannabes.

I'd love a boyfriend, but not someone who has attitude when they don't get their own way. After all, aren't relationships supposed to be all about compromise? A bit of give and take and not just take, take, take?

These type of men almost wind me up as much as the hot and cold blowers.

But that's another blog post ...

Tuesday, January 30th 2024

Phone Chat

I had a great phone chat session with someone the other week. We were on the phone for over an hour and had such a great chat. It was actually around 90 minutes.

I've never spent that much time on one call before, so this is just a reminder that I still do phone chat on a regular basis.

I still prioritise real life bookings over phone chat but I now make a conscious effort to put my green light on whenever I'm not busy with other things. I've even had phone chat sessions materialise into real life bookings, so that's another added bonus!

Wednesday, December 6th 2023

Mistress ... Cougar???

I've always gone for older men; I've never dated anyone younger.

That was until this year when I officially declared midlife crisis terrority and went out on several dates with several younger men. I actually went out on a date with a mere boy of twenty-two because of a shared music interest. But true to form none of these dates came to anything and that was before I declared my career to them.

Now I have my eye on someone I've met through a mutual hobby and he's the youngest of the lot at only twenty. He is very good looking, somewhat striking in fact and in my defense he does look older than twenty. Not that there's anything wrong with this as we're both adults.

I don't think he's interested in me, so nothing will happen. I'd only ruin him anyway!

Thursday, November 9th 2023

Technical Issues in the Digital Age

I don't know about you but I hate technical things. Accepting cash is much less common now and booking events is mostly done online.

I've had another technical problem to sort out this week as well and that's my old website (not this one) being taken down. My previous webmaster had my permission to do this, but at the time I didn't realise how many online directories it was also posted on. This started to become an issue when I couldn't get in touch with the people behind these online directories.

I did a Google search of myself and came up with a handful of results. There were some links to adverts that I haven't even put the details on myself, annoyingly they advertise the wrong phone number, too, so people can't get hold of me anyway. Unless they emailed me if my email address was showing which is not always the case on some sites. This also begs the question of how many people use these particular directories to get in contact. I still have had enquiries since my old website has been taken down, so it would be very handy to know where these recent enquiries have come from. Obviously, I do ask but a lot of the time people say they can't remember the exact details - just somewhere online!

I guess I should take comfort in the fact that my website is easy to find and people can search for it. The browser used can also be a factor and your search engine history results may play a part in what information is displayed. Some phone internet providers like EE can block adult content which is not at all helpful. But I don't think there's much I can do about that.

So, my future plans are to advertise in more online directories and see if that makes a difference to my volume of enquiries. I suspect that a lot of information these directories have is just wasted and no one sees it. And if you're paying to advertise then it's just another unnecessary blow.

Tuesday, October 3rd 2023

What's in a Name?

Over the last nearly eight years I have been working I have noticed something strange. Maybe I noticed it more in the early days as I used to ask the name of people who would book. And over time I began to notice a pattern.

Those that gave me certain names would usually be a delight to be around. Those that gave me unique names would usually be unique in someway themselves, often in a positive way. And those that gave me a particular popular name would be a nightmare for messing me around.

This particular name has certain shortened variations and one of these variations causes me no bother at all. I have seen many people who refer themselves with this abreviation and they've been lovely. But it's those people who give the full version of this name or another shortened version that are the problem. I am not going to state what this name is because I am sure that over the years since I stopped requesting names, I will have seen people with this name and they will have been lovely. And who knows whether this name is their real name or not.

Perhaps then it should come as no surprise this name has caused me nothing but trouble in my personal life as well. So I should be forgiven for avoiding it like the plague where I can.

Of course, there will always be exceptions to the rule and one day I may fall in love with a man of this name and live happily ever after.

Doubt it of course.

Wednesday, September 6th 2023

18 Months From Being Aged 40

As the title says, I'm eighteen months from being aged forty. And as many of you say, I do not look my age. In fact, I've only recently stopped being ID'd when buying alcohol. Not that I buy much as I rarely drink, so on the odd occasion I do want to purchase some I always take identification.

But what have my thirties entailed exactly? Well, buying my house for a start and that's my first property on my own. I have owned several other properties before but they have been bought with someone else. Then came my career of course and I have bought other property to let out since. I have had plenty of opportunities to pursue hobbies and make new friends along the way. Going to music gigs and ghost hunts I have done a lot of since turning thirty.

But there is one part of life I've not had any experience of and it's a massive one is deciding whether to have a family. Perhaps I have left it too late now. I'm not even with anyone so I would most probably have to go it alone and that's one scary thought! I think I touched on this subject a while back, so it's been on my mind quite a lot recently ...

I am hoping that as I get closer to another milestone age my mind will become somewhat clearer. I've never wanted a family before, so maybe it is just my age playing with my mind. Whatever it is I just hope I am able to make a decision that's ultimately right for me.

Wednesday, August 9th 2023

Making the Most of Time

Anyone who knows me knows I like to complete tasks during the day. I have endless 'to do' lists and I would describe myself as goal orientated or a type A personality, (for those of you who are interested in psychology).

Just because my profession is what it is does not mean I have no ambition. Far from it. I think my profession has a lot to do with the fact that I am goal driven and ambitious and I have chosen a career where I can make a decent salary in a relatively short space of time.
I'm always willing to try new things and I think this job helps me do that. I have a lot of free time to pursue hobbies and meet new people and I can see friends as much as I like as well.

I still like to get up early though as I feel lying in bed wastes time that could be otherwise be put to good use. I'm more likely to feel depressed if I've had a lie in. However, sometimes my sleep is needed and on those occasions I can often complete more tasks than I would have done if I had risen at my usual time.

So, whatever you're up to today I hope it's a productive one!

Friday, July 14th 2023

Scratchcards

With the cost of living still going on, I know many people are feeling the squeeze.

I've never been one for scratchcards, but every time I go into my local shop I see people buying them like they're going out of fashion. Although I never hear of anyone winning anything big on them. My corner shop doesn't have the best selection, either. They just sell cards ranging from £1 to £3 pounds and not every card has life changing money on offer. But people still buy them regardless.

I don't do the lottery, either, as I think the odds are so heavily stacked against you that it's just not worth it. I think if I had to choose between the two, I'd go and buy the scratchcards as the odds seem more realistic.

But this week, I came across videos on You Tube just dedicated to scratchcards. And it was interesting to watch people buy a stack of them and actually win something. They didn't win every time obviously, but they won more than I thought they would and their winnings weren't just £2. Sometimes they were £50.

I'm still not convinced they're worth spending a fortune on, but the videos were an interesting watch none the less.

Friday, June 16th 2023

A Question I Ponder

One of my favourite regulars came to see me this week whom I haven't seen since last year. He lives in Dublin so it is quite a trek.

I've known him for about six years and at the end he suddenly asks a question that I have pondered over for the last few years and that was do I ever want a family.

I would have said no straight away before I was thirty-five. But now I'm not so sure. I have very little family as it is. But I've always been such a free spirit and very independent, so to lose my freedom would be a massive blow.

And of course there is just one minor issue of my job here! That's the main reason I've held off. For the most part I love my job and I really couldn't imagine doing anything else. But it really wouldn't work with a family!

If I win the lottery I might consider it and retire. But I'd have to seriously consider things from a financial viewpoint if I were ever to have a family.

Seriously consider ...!

Tuesday, April 4th 2023

Diving In

Have you ever read a book that you liked so much that it's always stuck with you? That's what happened to me when I was twelve and even now twenty-six years later, I often recount details from the story.

I'm not sure why this book has stuck in my mind like it has done. Maybe it was my age, although at the time I did read countless other books. Not as many though as I did when I was a few years younger and adored Enid Blyton, Jacqueline Wilson and the like. Perhaps it was this particular book's storyline and the way it was written. Funny and intelligent. Or perhaps it was because sex was the topic. Now let me get this clear: there was no erotica or pornography in a book aimed at teenagers. This book had a proper storyline and it's protagonist was portrayed as a teenager with a strong will and a strong mind. Perhaps that's why I identified with it so much.

I read the book countless times over the years. The text became almost embedded within my young mind. But last night I did what I should have done years ago and searched for it on Amazon only to discover the author has written several more books in the series. At the time, I just thought the book was a stand alone story, so imagine my delight when I found the three other books I haven't read.

But maybe I'm thinking of this story now because it just so happens that the storyline is set around one of my favourite hobbies and where I met the guy whom I currently have feelings for. Now, twenty-six years later, I could be the girl in the book!

Thursday, March 2nd 2023

A Little Change ...

Ever since I've worked in this industry my hair has always been dark. Whether that's black, dark brown, medium brown or red.

But now I think I want to go lighter. Blonde maybe.

I've briefly mentioned this to the people I've seen this week and last and they seem in favour of it so far. If I do go blonde then it'll certainly be a change! My skin tone is fair anyway, so maybe it will suit me more than being dark. If it's a complete disaster then I can always go back to the dark side. But I definitely want to do something with my hair.

Watch this space anyway!

Wednesday, February 15th 2023

Happy Valentines to Me!

I hope all my lovely guys had a nice day yesterday. Valentine's Day has always been quiet for me on the work front. In fact, I can only remember working once on the actual date, despite being available all the other days apart from last year.

But last night had an unexpected twist in store for me in terms of a booty call. I've not had one of those in about eight years, so I was obviously overdue one!

This guy is super hot and fit and is man number two in my love 'rectangle'. That's now been reduced to a love triangle as I booted man number one out a long time ago, piece of sh#t that he was. But I'm still on good terms with man two and three. I can't see it ever going any further with man number two apart from on the physical terms which doesn't really matter as we both have very little in common anyway. But he's nice to kiss and smells gorgeous all the time!

Nothing has happened with man number three sadly but we've remained good friends. We have the most in common, but he just doesn't want to be with me and I don't think there is much I can do about that. He's very independent and does his own thing anyway, so it's never meant to be. I'm not expecting anything to change with him, so no need to feel guilty over my rendezvous with Mr. Hottie.