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Thursday, April 25th 2024

In a Relationship

People often joke about how you know whether you're in a relationship by how often you have sex. I was a huge fan of Sex and the City when it was on television and I'm sure this subject was in their script as well.

I know through past relationships that this is sadly quite often true, just when you feel the most comfortable with the other person, too. And that is so frustrating!

I know through working this job that this is the cliche as well.
So, why is this so often the case?

All I can think is people become too comfortable and bored with the other person. Familiarity breeds contempt, right? Or something like that. Sex is no longer exciting, but bland and boring.

Tuesday, February 27th 2024

Wannabe Alpha Males

I seem to come across a lot of these men in my personal life. They want to be in control all the time, but they don't have the job or general life status to match up with their attitude.

It seems ironic really that I'm a dominatrix by profession, yet I seem to attract these bossy men who think they can call the shots whenever they like, do whatever they like without consequence.

Fine if they're an actual alpha male, I don't get on with them much anyway, but it really winds me up when they're just wannabes.

I'd love a boyfriend, but not someone who has attitude when they don't get their own way. After all, aren't relationships supposed to be all about compromise? A bit of give and take and not just take, take, take?

These type of men almost wind me up as much as the hot and cold blowers.

But that's another blog post ...

Tuesday, January 30th 2024

Phone Chat

I had a great phone chat session with someone the other week. We were on the phone for over an hour and had such a great chat. It was actually around 90 minutes.

I've never spent that much time on one call before, so this is just a reminder that I still do phone chat on a regular basis.

I still prioritise real life bookings over phone chat but I now make a conscious effort to put my green light on whenever I'm not busy with other things. I've even had phone chat sessions materialise into real life bookings, so that's another added bonus!

Wednesday, December 6th 2023

Mistress ... Cougar???

I've always gone for older men; I've never dated anyone younger.

That was until this year when I officially declared midlife crisis terrority and went out on several dates with several younger men. I actually went out on a date with a mere boy of twenty-two because of a shared music interest. But true to form none of these dates came to anything and that was before I declared my career to them.

Now I have my eye on someone I've met through a mutual hobby and he's the youngest of the lot at only twenty. He is very good looking, somewhat striking in fact and in my defense he does look older than twenty. Not that there's anything wrong with this as we're both adults.

I don't think he's interested in me, so nothing will happen. I'd only ruin him anyway!

Thursday, November 9th 2023

Technical Issues in the Digital Age

I don't know about you but I hate technical things. Accepting cash is much less common now and booking events is mostly done online.

I've had another technical problem to sort out this week as well and that's my old website (not this one) being taken down. My previous webmaster had my permission to do this, but at the time I didn't realise how many online directories it was also posted on. This started to become an issue when I couldn't get in touch with the people behind these online directories.

I did a Google search of myself and came up with a handful of results. There were some links to adverts that I haven't even put the details on myself, annoyingly they advertise the wrong phone number, too, so people can't get hold of me anyway. Unless they emailed me if my email address was showing which is not always the case on some sites. This also begs the question of how many people use these particular directories to get in contact. I still have had enquiries since my old website has been taken down, so it would be very handy to know where these recent enquiries have come from. Obviously, I do ask but a lot of the time people say they can't remember the exact details - just somewhere online!

I guess I should take comfort in the fact that my website is easy to find and people can search for it. The browser used can also be a factor and your search engine history results may play a part in what information is displayed. Some phone internet providers like EE can block adult content which is not at all helpful. But I don't think there's much I can do about that.

So, my future plans are to advertise in more online directories and see if that makes a difference to my volume of enquiries. I suspect that a lot of information these directories have is just wasted and no one sees it. And if you're paying to advertise then it's just another unnecessary blow.

Tuesday, October 3rd 2023

What's in a Name?

Over the last nearly eight years I have been working I have noticed something strange. Maybe I noticed it more in the early days as I used to ask the name of people who would book. And over time I began to notice a pattern.

Those that gave me certain names would usually be a delight to be around. Those that gave me unique names would usually be unique in someway themselves, often in a positive way. And those that gave me a particular popular name would be a nightmare for messing me around.

This particular name has certain shortened variations and one of these variations causes me no bother at all. I have seen many people who refer themselves with this abreviation and they've been lovely. But it's those people who give the full version of this name or another shortened version that are the problem. I am not going to state what this name is because I am sure that over the years since I stopped requesting names, I will have seen people with this name and they will have been lovely. And who knows whether this name is their real name or not.

Perhaps then it should come as no surprise this name has caused me nothing but trouble in my personal life as well. So I should be forgiven for avoiding it like the plague where I can.

Of course, there will always be exceptions to the rule and one day I may fall in love with a man of this name and live happily ever after.

Doubt it of course.

Wednesday, August 9th 2023

Making the Most of Time

Anyone who knows me knows I like to complete tasks during the day. I have endless 'to do' lists and I would describe myself as goal orientated or a type A personality, (for those of you who are interested in psychology).

Just because my profession is what it is does not mean I have no ambition. Far from it. I think my profession has a lot to do with the fact that I am goal driven and ambitious and I have chosen a career where I can make a decent salary in a relatively short space of time.
I'm always willing to try new things and I think this job helps me do that. I have a lot of free time to pursue hobbies and meet new people and I can see friends as much as I like as well.

I still like to get up early though as I feel lying in bed wastes time that could be otherwise be put to good use. I'm more likely to feel depressed if I've had a lie in. However, sometimes my sleep is needed and on those occasions I can often complete more tasks than I would have done if I had risen at my usual time.

So, whatever you're up to today I hope it's a productive one!

Friday, July 14th 2023

Scratchcards

With the cost of living still going on, I know many people are feeling the squeeze.

I've never been one for scratchcards, but every time I go into my local shop I see people buying them like they're going out of fashion. Although I never hear of anyone winning anything big on them. My corner shop doesn't have the best selection, either. They just sell cards ranging from £1 to £3 pounds and not every card has life changing money on offer. But people still buy them regardless.

I don't do the lottery, either, as I think the odds are so heavily stacked against you that it's just not worth it. I think if I had to choose between the two, I'd go and buy the scratchcards as the odds seem more realistic.

But this week, I came across videos on You Tube just dedicated to scratchcards. And it was interesting to watch people buy a stack of them and actually win something. They didn't win every time obviously, but they won more than I thought they would and their winnings weren't just £2. Sometimes they were £50.

I'm still not convinced they're worth spending a fortune on, but the videos were an interesting watch none the less.

Tuesday, April 4th 2023

Diving In

Have you ever read a book that you liked so much that it's always stuck with you? That's what happened to me when I was twelve and even now twenty-six years later, I often recount details from the story.

I'm not sure why this book has stuck in my mind like it has done. Maybe it was my age, although at the time I did read countless other books. Not as many though as I did when I was a few years younger and adored Enid Blyton, Jacqueline Wilson and the like. Perhaps it was this particular book's storyline and the way it was written. Funny and intelligent. Or perhaps it was because sex was the topic. Now let me get this clear: there was no erotica or pornography in a book aimed at teenagers. This book had a proper storyline and it's protagonist was portrayed as a teenager with a strong will and a strong mind. Perhaps that's why I identified with it so much.

I read the book countless times over the years. The text became almost embedded within my young mind. But last night I did what I should have done years ago and searched for it on Amazon only to discover the author has written several more books in the series. At the time, I just thought the book was a stand alone story, so imagine my delight when I found the three other books I haven't read.

But maybe I'm thinking of this story now because it just so happens that the storyline is set around one of my favourite hobbies and where I met the guy whom I currently have feelings for. Now, twenty-six years later, I could be the girl in the book!

Wednesday, February 15th 2023

Happy Valentines to Me!

I hope all my lovely guys had a nice day yesterday. Valentine's Day has always been quiet for me on the work front. In fact, I can only remember working once on the actual date, despite being available all the other days apart from last year.

But last night had an unexpected twist in store for me in terms of a booty call. I've not had one of those in about eight years, so I was obviously overdue one!

This guy is super hot and fit and is man number two in my love 'rectangle'. That's now been reduced to a love triangle as I booted man number one out a long time ago, piece of sh#t that he was. But I'm still on good terms with man two and three. I can't see it ever going any further with man number two apart from on the physical terms which doesn't really matter as we both have very little in common anyway. But he's nice to kiss and smells gorgeous all the time!

Nothing has happened with man number three sadly but we've remained good friends. We have the most in common, but he just doesn't want to be with me and I don't think there is much I can do about that. He's very independent and does his own thing anyway, so it's never meant to be. I'm not expecting anything to change with him, so no need to feel guilty over my rendezvous with Mr. Hottie.

Tuesday, November 15th 2022

My New Snag Tights

I came across an online store last week called Snag. They sell all sorts of tights and the garments all seemed good quality.

I took a risk and bought some mock garter tights which are basically stockings and suspenders all in one. You have the stockings, but they're attached to a belt that sits around your waist with the appropriate bits cut out. It's not a belt as such that you do up, but rather fabric that goes all the way around.

I have to say that they're much better than fiddling around with the usual suspender belt. I'm going to upload a photo in my Adultwork gallery and post a pic here too

Friday, September 9th 2022

Chronic Thoughts of an Overthinker

I've always overthought everything and when I have something on my mind I just can't stop thinking about it. The same scenario plays on a loop inside my brain. It's enough to drive even the sanest individual mad.

And I've had a lot to overthink this year too, sadly. It's not been the best. Work has been fine, but a lot has happened in my personal life and unfortunately little of it has been good.
I've always been into art, especially the music scene and it's music that's truly saved me this year. My regulars will know what I mean by this. And while this year hasn't been the best, it's been the best in terms of the music I listen to. Apologies if I sound like I'm talking in riddles here, again my regulars will know what I mean by this.

There has been one ray of light though and that's a new friend I've made. I pray to whomever I pray to that he sticks around because he is one of the most genuine, thoughtful and lovely guys I've met. At the moment, I'm not sure if I have feelings for him, but I guess I'd be more sure if I knew how he feels about me. Let's just say he plays his cards close to his chest. I hope he likes me - I have everything crossed. He is man number three in my little rectangle, the other two I have pretty much kicked to the kerb where they belong.

Wednesday, August 10th 2022

Man One, Two and Three!

Last month I blogged about my 'Love Rectangle,' and how I couldn't make my mind up about which of these three guys I liked more. I haven't seen anything of man one and two since, as usual. Man two seems to have frightened himself off again and the only thing man one is consistent about is his excuses why he can't come and see me.

But man three continues to be the most reliable, not that he has much competition seeing as man one and two always let me down. But there's more to man three than meets the eye and I am really starting to like him (never a good sign for me!).

Man three is dependable, reliable (hope I'm not jinxing things here) and nice to talk to. We also have the most in common. He doesn't smoke or drink and also doesn't have kids, another huge bonus in my eyes!

I just hope he likes me as much as I'm starting to like him ...

Monday, July 18th 2022

A Love Rectangle, Not a Triangle ...

Well, I have to say I am in something of a love rectangle at the moment. The popular term is love triangle when there are three people involved, but I seem to have acquired three men who express an interest.
I have been single for years and years and years too, sometimes not always by choice, either. And now it's as if the Universe has suddenly got the memo that maybe, just maybe, I would like to be with someone.
The trouble is, however, no matter how nice it would be I just can't simply go out with all three of them. It would seem they're like buses: not one for ages and then three turn up all at once.
The first guy I have known for years and I started seeing him January. The second is one of my neighbours who I asked out eighteen months ago, but nothing ever came of it until we kissed last summer and then still nothing else happened. And the third one I have known for only nine months and we met through a mutual hobby.

Man one and man two, though, I never know where I am with them. Man two has the better reason for saying one thing and then doing another and that's because I went after him last year. Man one came after me and has since backed off, this I find particularly hurtful seeing as I have done the most for him. And man three has just shown he is reliable with his words matching up to his actions.
I can't ever seeing it working out with man one and two as I never know where I am with them. But hopefully, just hopefully, man number three will get lucky ...